I think there is a lesson and I think there is a lot of truth to your comment. I have 2 brothers and I can tell you that the oldest one the true asshole has reeped the benefits of quite a few accomplished intelligent women in his life. Where my brother Jermaine who is as good as gold always seems to wind up with the meanest bitches on the planet. I do think that women are attracted to confidence and mistake arrogance or controlling behavior for confidence and assertiveness all the time. I also find a lot of women who stay in those situations thinking they have a strong man instead of realizing him for the jerk he is. There are a few of us who learn the difference, most of us the hard way. But with that said there are still those men who are just assholes on their own without any prompt from women.

Do I think men behave the way they do because of women, because they are successful at getting women with that behavior so they continue it. Yes I think there is some truth to that statement. But do I think that women have been conditioned to accept that behavior as strength and taught to believe that men without that "strength" will not make good mates, yes I also think that is true.

My hope is that the men who haven't been ruined by the mean bitches or misguided by the rewards of bad behavior will show up in my life and hopefully my vision has cleared enough to recognize them when they do.